Dear ______________________,


Thank you for your letter.

Among my students and clients over the years (and some of my personal friends as well), a majority report experiencing difficulty with meditation. While their reasons vary, the most frequent are in line with what you're describing: time constraints, lack of privacy, and difficulty being still.

Meditation is a powerful transformational tool. It requires dedication: daily practice. Most people don't like to hear this but the truth is, there are no short cuts. Spiritual discipline accepts no excuses. The old saying, "You get from it what you put into it," is very accurate.

Please do not feel that this is meant in a scolding manner. It is not. Rather, it is more to address the most common misconceptions about meditation. Many people believe that if they sit cross-legged and close their eyes for 5 minutes once a month, untold spiritual wonders will unfold before them.  While it may seem contradictory, meditation is much simpler than most people expect and this simplicity, in many cases, is what confuses people. They assume that there must be more to it, they must be "doing it wrong," and/or when those "untold spiritual wonders" do not unfold before them, they believe they must not be "special" enough. None of this is true.

The truth is that meditation is a profound journey that cannot be rushed. It takes a life time to master it because the real goal in meditation is to master yourself. The discipline this requires is more of a commitment than most people are willing to make and the misconceptions about meditation cause many people to abandon the practice before they ever really begin it.

The best advice I can offer you is to start by researching different approaches to and forms of meditation. The internet is a wonderful resource for this. You might also want to go to a local library or book store and pick up a beginners book. There are hundreds available. Look for one that explains several different types of meditation and try as many of these as possible.

Many of the people I work with find that guided meditations are the easiest way to start. You might want to shop around and try some of these also. See what resonates with you. Some find it is incredibly easy to sit in their vehicle (on a lunch break from work or while out running errands) with headphones and a guided meditation CD. These can be picked up at many bookstores or metaphysical shops. Some libraries lend them out as well. See what is available in your area.

Other people find that the structured environment of group meditation classes works well for them. If this appeals to you, try an internet search in your area for meditation classes. Many will allow you to attend one trial class to see if it's right for you.

The point is to experiment. See what resonates with you. As you try different methods and approaches, you'll actually be training your mind to open to the idea of meditation which will make your practice much easier once you find a style that works for you.

Whatever method you are trying, start with15-20 minutes a day. Set aside and schedule this time in your day planner, if need be. Consider it sacred because it is sacred. It's time for yourself. Time to cleanse and recharge yourself. Time to nurture your Spirit. Time to center yourself and commune with your Source. What could be more sacred than this?

Enter into your meditation time with intention but release your expectations. Simply let it be what it is. This is difficult to grasp at first. If you continue, you will understand it with time.  

Be patient with yourself. Allow yourself to enjoy the journey instead of focusing on the destination. Keep at it and you will see results.

I hope that something I have shared with you helps you along your  Path. Please let me know if there is anything else I can do to assist you.


In Light, Love, and Peace,
~ Jordyn

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