Dear ______________________,

 
Thanks for writing to me.

First, please allow me to share with you that I understand how confusing and concerning this can sometimes be. What you are describing (regarding blurting out information and the very powerful ways in which spirit can communicate and stress urgency) sounds similar to what many psychic mediums experience before they have trained and/or embraced their gifts. Many people have had to struggle with these things alone.

The energy surges psychic mediums experience can be very disorienting and can produce very real physical, emotional, and energetic side effects. Many of us, whose gifts were active from birth, did not have people around us who were knowledgeable. Many of us had instead people who were fearful or clouded by ignorance or who simply did not know any better and could not be supportive.

It can be incredibly challenging to have these abilities under the best circumstances, much less when there is no support or mentoring available.

It is also very common for many psychic mediums to have anxiety about being perceived as "strange." We all instinctively know we are different from most of those around us in this way. Add to this the feelings of isolation that can come from lack of support, misunderstanding, and, unfortunately, the outright accusations of "lying," "manipulation," "mental illness," "satanism," etc. etc. etc. from those who do not know better, and it can result in powerful loneliness, feeling as if we are "cursed,"  and sometimes, lasting depression.

Some of the most important things you will come to realize as you continue to seek knowledge and come to accept your gifts are: you are not crazy, you are not alone, and help is available.

As for not wanting to cause injury with our messages, this is of the utmost importance, and only training and honing of the abilities coupled with a solid understanding of ones own Spiritual identity and beliefs can ensure that this does not happen. It's an awesome responsibility and most of us who are given these gifts have this concern. Personally, I believe the concern is part of the gifts themselves. If we were not concerned about those whom we serve, if we did not have compassion and empathy, then we would be largely ineffective as instruments.

With these things in mind, let's look at your specific questions:

"Is there a right time or a wrong time to give a message? "

Absolutely. But it's something that only the individual psychic medium can determine. This is done through honing of ones abilities, communication with ones own Inner Guidance, and from a solid foundation in ones own Spiritual identity and personal Spiritual belief system. Each of these things plays a vital part in guiding the psychic medium in knowing when and how to give his/or her messages.

"What do you do if the recipient doesn't want to hear what you have to say and each time you see that person, the deceased spirit is persistent?"

One of the most important things you can learn as a psychic medium is that the Spirits of the deceased do not control you - you control them. This is a tough one for many of us. I struggled with it myself.

You decide when you are open and ready to work and when you are not. Spirits of those who were once within this physical realm respect this but you have to let them know. This takes time and practice. You may still receive messages, urgent ones at times, even when you are "closed," but these will usually come from your Guides and Helpers rather than the Spirits of the deceased. There is a big difference.
 
It's important to understand and remember that these Spirits are drawn to you because, unlike us, they know who can see and hear them and they have no doubts. If you come in contact with one of these Spirits who has a message for someone and you are the only one around who can see or hear them, of course they are going to try to take the opportunity to communicate with their loved one / ones who are still on this side.

Imagine what it would be like to be separated from your loved one yet you could see and hear and feel them grieving or hurting and they could not hear or see you and your responses. Your desire to communicate with them would be pretty strong, right? And you might even be a little over-eager at times to get that message through, especially if a "translator" suddenly was in your immediate vicinity. It begins to make more sense if you can look at it from this perspective.

99% of the time, these Spirits are beings of light and have love and concern as their only motivation. They do not mean to cause you any discomfort. They are simply trying to get very important messages to their loved ones. Also, they are not all-knowing beings. They only know that you can see and hear them. This is because of the energy you give off. When you are a psychic medium, you sort of "broadcast" this information to the Spirit realm. They don't know whether or not you've been trained or whether or not you even know you have the gift. They only know you are their chance to speak their message.

You may not realize this but you not only have the right but also the responsibility of telling them when you do not want to be used and when you cannot be used. Of course, you do this respectfully and with love. Until you learn how to send the signal that you are "closed right now," you will need to tell them when you are ready to work and when you are not. A good training program will help you learn how to do this in the ways most effective for you. Also, your own Inner Guidance and personal Helpers will assist you. A simple and effective way of doing this right now is to simply speak it. Acknowledge that you are aware of the Spirit presence and that you are getting the message and that you will help as soon as you are able. You may do this out loud, if you are comfortable with that and it's appropriate, or quietly, within your mind. Both are effective. Ask the God of your understanding and your personal Helpers to assist you. They will gladly do so.

As for the person for whom you have a message, if they tell you that they are not interested in receiving it, you must honor that. It is their right to say. "no."

If you are in a situation when you are ready, willing, and able to work and feel an urging from Spirit to deliver a message to a person, simply explain that you are a psychic medium and you may have a message for them. Then ask if they are open to receiving it. Honor their answer. If they say, "no," thank them for their time. Of course this will require that you are a bit more comfortable with who you are and the gifts you've been given. Rest assured, these things will come with time, practice, and proper training.

In the meantime, do the best with what you have and the level of knowledge / understanding you possess at the moment.
 
I encourage you to find and enroll in a training program with which you are comfortable. Ask the God of your understanding and your own Spirit Helpers to lead you the program that is best for you. Even if you cannot hear or feel that you cannot communicate with your Helpers or Guides, they hear you and will answer you. The God of your understanding will lead you. Watch and pay attention. You will be lead to the program and/or person that is best suited to you.

Remember, you are a child of the Divine. The gifts you have may be different from those of the people around you, but each person is given abilities in some area. No gift or ability given is a mistake and all have challenges. The gifts you have are the gifts you are supposed to have. All of us, as humans, go through the process of discovering what these things are and how to best use them.

I do understand what a confusing and intense time this can be for you and I want to assure you that you are not alone and help is available. Please don't be discouraged. You will find your way, your place, and your own personal method for using your gifts. You have the desire to understand your gifts and help others with them, this is all that is required. The answers will come. Be patient with yourself and keep seeking.
 
Thank you again, for writing to me. I sincerely hope that something I have shared will be of some help to you.

Brightest Blessings,
~ Jordyn

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